Today at the office people were discussing Christmas gifts for fellow co-workers. Basically, every inside person, has an outside person. My partner and l rotate, to add variety, and so she can spend time at home with her soon-to-be husband. And l can feel like l haven't totally abandoned my cats.
There were a couple inside people talking about what they were buying their outside person for Christmas. I don't know how to say this nicely, but l hate getting gifts. I don't mind the whole idea of exchanging gifts, but l hate feeling the obligation to one, buy a gift for someone, since l don't usually go shopping in malls l have no idea what to get people, and two, l hate getting something l really don't want/need/use. I know l sound ungrateful but l have been purging my belonging for years now.
I can easily donate, trash, give to a friend any item that l have purchased myself for me, but once someone gives me something, it has
I need to have the "talk" with my partner. But, will l insult her? I don't know her well enough, l don't know her feelings on gifts.
My friends and l have all come to an agreement to not exchange gifts, we buy each other dinner on their birthday and enjoy each others company over the holidays. Let me tell you it is the best. Instead of rushing around and dropping money on something that may never get used, we spend quality time together. Even my family only buys the kids gifts at Christmas, not the adults.
I have to address it soon with her, before she goes and buys me something, and then l will have to go to a mall and search for an appropriate gift. Yuck!